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  Blanket Judgements and other JW phenomenon

  by LDH in

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  my mind was wandering last night and i started thinking about the way 'faithful' jws issue blanket condemnations.

  i wondered if it's a personality thing that is just reinforced by the jw mantra of "we're always right and we're the only true religion etc.

  " or if it's a jw or other fundy religious phenomenon.. here's two examples, feel free to add your own.. when i was about 17, i started visiting nyc regularly, and attending different congregations (wow!

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  I actually had an elders wife cousel me on wearing finger nail polish. She said bright polish detracted from the message. Needless to say, I wore it even more after that!!!
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  wasted in arguments

  by hippikon in

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  i think a lot of space is wasted in arguments that get personal.

  we are a varied bunch and i think that variety is good.

  i dont want to discourage anyone from posting but personal attacks ( justified or not) dont achieve anything.

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  thinkers wife

  Well said Hippikon!!
  Goo, hugs from me too!!!!!!
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  Question to shunned persons

  by HesterPryne in

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  hello everyone,.

  if your jehovah's witness relatves came to you and said..... "praise jah, there has been 'new light" and we can associate with you again!".....

  what would you say or do?

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  OutandFree,
  Thanks for the insight. I believe you are probably very right. The one person I have in mind, whom I also miss sorely is a woman I studied with.
  We had a brief interval, where she talked to me for a week or two. But I felt compelled to tell her that if the elders found out, she could be disfellowshipped.
  When we were studying, she refused to study the last chapter of the book with me, because she said she never wanted our study to end. When she told me she had done research on the laws of Da'ing, she said she wished I would have left it like not studying the last chapter of the book. She could have done very well with not knowing the rules. She said she was going back into mourning.
  Knowing these things helps intellectually, but not with my heart.
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  The Apostle AK is signing off...for now.

  by TheApostleAK in

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  i'm not renewing my internet account as of this weekend cos i found a fulltime job.

  so i guess it will be goodbye for a long while.. from alan (aka the apostle ak)

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  Alan,
  Sorry you won't be with us anymore. Have enjoyed your posts. Hope all goes well in your new situation.
  Wish I had had some of the ideas I've gotten here when I was leaving the Borg. Great trick Alan!!!
  Would love to have my records and letters, because some of them were not even supposed to be on record, if you know what I mean!!
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  Psychics

  by LovesDubs in

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  have any of you gone to have psychic readings?

  or tarot cards or whtever since being sprung or even while in the borg?

  there is one on the tv all the time, maybe shes just in the florida area, sounds bahamian.. "sooo wat areya waitin fooor?

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  Out and Free,
  That is amazing. Never been to one. But Thinker and I bought some Tarot cards awhile back. We have done some good amatuer readings on each other. It is almost more of a science than magic.
  I have a friend who has some phsycic powers, she is amazingly accurate sometimes.
  I also happen to think that something she told me to do helped Thinker and I get together. Amazingly before Thinker and I ever met, he was trying something similiar to the thing she told me to do.
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  thoughts about miscarriage

  by silentlambs in

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  i remember the date, may 15, 1991, it was the date my wife miscarried and a young life was lost.

  there was no funeral, few remarks of support.

  i will never forget the remark of my mother, well it never was really a baby after all.

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  thinkers wife

  To all who have experienced these great losses, my heart goes out to each and everyone of you.
  To those who write with eloquence, what a wonderful thing to be able to use beautiful words and phrases to express and heal from our great pain.
  Thank you one and all for sharing!
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  Bad memories

  by JW72 in

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  hi everyone, i don't wanna dwell on bad memories, but i just wanna share one of my worst memories from school.. my brother was in the year above me, we had just finished lunch, everyone knew that we were jw's (not going to assemblies, nativity plays,birthday parties, seen in the field service....) we both walked onto the school field together to the whole school already on the field, stood in a line, clapping and shouting "jehovahs witness!!

  " at us, it was absolutely dreadful.. kids can be cruel............ anyone else wanna divulge??.

  love .

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  I have lot's of bad things, but try not to dwell on them. (not to say, that I couldn't relate to the things mentioned here)
  But I just have to tell this one. Went out in service on a Saturday morning. Knocked on a door and a guy from my school, (he was a couple grades ahead of me) answered the door in his pajamas. I don't know who was more embarrassed. Anyway, I stumbled through the presentation. Monday at school I told a few of my friends. So we all started yelling "Hey PJ" whenever he got close to us. The upshot was, he started dating one of the girls and they got married. Pretty cool, actually. They were married for a long time. Got divorced a few years back. No kids (I think).
  Anyway when life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
  Again, I don't mean this to disparage anything that hurt the rest of you guys. Some of the memories are very painful!! Keep on speaking your hearts!
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  Saying one thing...meaning the other

  by Thirdson in

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  there is a great tendency among the supposed mature jws to look down on others.

  my mother was/is one of those types and was a master of saying one thing while meaning the exact opposite.

  the wise knew what she meant.. for instance, we had the co stay with us on one occasion which gave my mother plenty of time to pretend we were much better jws than we really were.

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  Are all Mom's who are JW's related? My Mom is the Queen of Denial!
  
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  Question to shunned persons

  by HesterPryne in

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  hello everyone,.

  if your jehovah's witness relatves came to you and said..... "praise jah, there has been 'new light" and we can associate with you again!".....

  what would you say or do?

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  thinkers wife

  I don't really know how I would feel, to tell the truth. There are so many factors involved. I am like Wendy, my family really doesn't know me, and they never really have.
  As a result of my marriage and disassociating myself back to back within a week, my parents refuse to meet my husband. They never call, they talk if I call them. They express no interest in my new life with my wonderful husband. And they have even resorted to accusing my husband of ridiculous things, including ulterior motives for marrying me. It has been my mother who has said these things for the most part.
  At this point even if things changed, I am not sure I would want them to meet my husband, because I know they would be looking at him with suspicion and pre-judgment.
  It is a hard call. As for the rest of my friends still in the org., I will never understand how you can turn love off and on like a faucet. It is simply beyond my comprehension. I only had a few very close friends in the org. and it just doesn't make any sense to me. I couldn't do it if I were in their shoes.
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  Rainy Days & Monday Mornings

  by Outaservice in

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  most normal people i know, and am around look forward to the weekend and nice weather.

  even though i have not been a publisher for many years now, i still assoicate week-ends with taking the group out in service and baby sitting a lot of the kids from the hall.

  what a pleasure monday mornings were when i could go back to work!.

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  I am forty-one years old and still remember not being able to watch cartoons on Saturday mornings. It used to really gripe my butt. Then after I got married and moved to a very small congregation in WV. Sometimes the weather would get really bad, and my ex-husband would insist we still go to the book study which he conducted, and no one would show up, he would insist on studying anyway. Drove me crazy.
  Now I live for the weekends so Thinker and I can be together. Doesn't make me feel guilty at all.
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  Interesting how we all go through the same emotions though.